I had a general idea of the types of doctors that would be needed so I spent the time researching doctors in each of the specialties that would be needed. Before moving day I had appointments set up, of course with my mom’s blessing, so that getting to know each other could take place fairly quickly. I had Mom send me a photo of her medical card so that I could be certain that the doctor did accept that insurance.
Doctor Hunt
Researching a new doctor did take some time for me to accomplish, but Google once again came to my rescue. I was able to fairly quickly narrow the list down to the top three in each specialty. From there I did my research, called and talked to the office staff, checked with others that I knew but mostly went with my gut instinct.
I sent the short list to Mom, who found it a bit overwhelming with packing and closing up her life where she was so I opted to go with picking my first choice and setting appointments, clearly explaining to mom that if she was not comfortable we would find another doctor for her. Absolutely no pressure for her, it was all about making her as comfortable as possible.
If there are any health issues, medical records are very necessary to be obtained, whether hand carried or sent ahead doctor to doctor so that everyone’s time is best utilized.
Establishing Expectations
Be sure to discuss in advance with your senior whether you will be the chauffeur or will be joining them in the office during the visit. And if you are accompanying them into the office, will you be an observer or providing input? In my personal situation, I observed, but ensured all questions and concerns were addressed from both sides. I ensured that follow up care and medications were completely understood by both parties. So overall I did not speak up a lot, but I also supported Mom so that her anxiety did not get too overwhelming for her. (So the short answer would be I was more emotional support for my mom but also ensured that all understood so directions were followed).
Be sure the doctor, nurse and the staff understand your role in your parents care. They will be better able to help support your loved one and you in that role, depending on the practice you chose to use. Remember that HIPPA does apply so permission must be provided per the practice requirements.
Appointment Day
The day of each appointment I had all new paperwork filled out ready for Mom’s signatures, doctors records ready, questions in hand and medication information. It made an even more stressful situation much less stressful. We were clear with our expectations of the other up front and were able to focus on what the doctor had to say during the appointment.
